Fast Love: A Gender Showdown in Romance
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One of my favorite songs is the chart-topping Tavares song, “It Only Takes A Minute Girl”. I love this song. It makes me want to hug squirrels and emu. If you’re unfamiliar with this song, you should find it quickly. You will love it like I do. Or you shall feel the grapes of wrath.
(I’m not actually sure if the plural for emu is emu or emus. So just be aware that when I say emu in that second sentence, I mean more than one emu. I’m also too lazy to look that up. )
The title of the song got me to thinking about this saying: It takes a minute to like someone, an hour to love somebody, and a lifetime to forget someone. Or something like that. Removing the literal interpretation of that statement and I have a question and I get to wondering how quickly you can actually fall for somebody.
Screw that, here’s the better question, who falls “in love” faster – men or women?
Now, in my estimation, and judging by the number of relationships that I’ve been in where a woman has told me she loved me before I knew her last name, I’m inclined to think that women fall harder, better, faster, stronger. Now this could be easily explained by the mere fact that so many women seem to be looking for love….actively. Like standing on the side of a road with signs that say “Will Sing, Strip, and Cook for Love”.
Seriously, I saw a woman with this sign. By the way, that last sentence is completely fabricated. If you don’t know what fabricated means, then that first sentence is totally true.
Now what’s interesting about this observation is that most women I know are very guarded about their vulnerabilities. This seems to fly in the face of falling so quickly. Yet, we all know women who meet a dude and 2 hours later she’s naming their imaginary children and scribbing his name on her Palm Pilot Etch-A-Sketch. But alas, you can’t stop your heart from feeling what it feels.
Unless its heartburn, in which case you should find an antacid.
Of course, children, this is not to say that men don’t fall hard. I’ve been the victim of the Fastfall. I met some chick and before I knew it I found myself mysteriously interested in a woman I’d known for all of 3 hours. I guess you can’t argue chemistry but truth is, I’ve never worried about getting screwed over in a relationship either, so for me, falling fast isn’t so much a problem. I don’t assume that all women are triflin’ ho*z – despite having dated two outwardly trifing ho*z. (Seriously…one of my ex’s ACTUALLY asked me if her ex-boyfriend could spend the night with her while we were dating– not to sleep with her, but because he was in town for the weekend. I told her “sure, while you’re at it, get pregnant too. So she did.) So it seems that for men, like me, who aren’t really trying to guard their emotions and all that jazz, falling hard is just one of those byproducts of a big butt and a smile.
Naw, that’s the old style.
But perhaps I’m shortsighted. I know there are lots of other chaps out there who meet a woman and get all enamored and blindsided by some woman they barely know and get messed up in the game because they go professing their love and it becomes unrequited. Next think you know, she’s out tricking or something and you roll by Cheesecake Factory and see her and because she’s supposed to be at her grandma’s house, where she said she’d be, you have no choice but to go in their and yank her the fu…
Um. Never mind.
Either way, citizens, who do you thinks falls faster? The easy money seems to be on the women, but are men just as prone to fall in 2 shakes of a lambs tale? And if we assume that women do fall faster, what does that say about the contradiction of most women doing everything they can to not get screwed over by being guarded?
What say you?
Say you, say me.